Saturday, May 28, 2011

My Mom

I've started about 6 blog posts this week and have deleted every single one. I wasn't sure how to say this, but here goes...

My mom has bladder cancer.

It's early and extremely treatable - thank god - and as far as cancer goes, this is a good one to have. But still...that word...it's goddamn scary.

I didn't want to say it in an, "Oh! The sky is falling! My whole world is shattered!" kind of way. And I didn't want to say, "Eh, no big deal. The news hasn't affected me at all." It's somewhere in between. And usually I'm pretty ok with words, but I don't have the right ones for this situation.

My mom and I have an amazing relationship. It wasn't always that way. We didn't exactly get along when I was younger. We didn't like each other very much for about a decade. But now...we're friends. Not just mother and daughter. We like to hang out together and that's awesome.

So...I don't know what else to say so I'll end it here.

17 comments:

Lap Band Gal said...

Hang in there :-) sending you big hugs and positivity for your moms quick recovery.

Linda said...

Stephanie - I'm so sorry about your Mom. I know staying positive is hard, but it really helps in these situations.

Meli said...

steph i'm sorry to hear about this but thank god its treatable at this stage. i can relate so much with your relationship. all throughout my teens it felt like my mom hated me and i was scared of her. it wasn't till i got to my 20s when she finally relaxed and stopped being such a disciplinarian and became more of a friend. sending you hugs and good vibes and i hope your mom gets a clean bill of health.

Cat's Chic Chat said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. I am so glad you two have a friendship. I'm sending all sorts of positive thoughts and energy your way. Please keep us posted.

kagead said...

You're right- cancer is a really scary word. I'm glad that they caught it early and it is treatable. That's the best you can get along with a diagnosis! You'll have your down days for sure, but keeping an overall positive attitude really does make a difference to you and to the person going through the treatments.

We're here for you when you need us.

FitBy40 said...

Sorry to hear you and your family are going through this. We've had our share of that horrible disease in our family and I know it totally sucks!
Hang in there and I'm glad to hear you're close with your mom. She'll need you!

Kristin said...

Stephanie, I'm sorry to hear about your mom's diagnosis. My mom was diagnosed with early-stage bladder cancer about 18 years ago and had a fully recovery (even with a recurrence a year later). She's perfectly healthy now at 62 years old. Best wishes to your mom for a quick treatment and recovery!

Kerri said...

Keeping you in my thoughts!!!

Maria said...

Sending lots of prayers and positive thoughts for you and your mom. Hang in there!

Melissa Wolf said...

I understand how scary it is, but keep thinking positive thoughts and stay in today. Keeping you and your mom in my prayers.

Sam said...

I am sorry to hear about your mum. I am sending the happy, healthy vibes for a quick recovery for her. And know that we are all thinking of you.

Dinnerland said...

Glad to hear it is treatable-- I hear you on cancer in the family: my dad had prostate and lung and my sister had breast: both are ALIVE and doing well to this day.
Hang in there, I know that scared feelings, but knowing there is treatment and good odds-- keep your eye on the positive !!
xo

Jen said...

wow, that is scary! I'm so glad that you guys can be there for each other- I'll be thinking of you! Hang in there...the good news is that it sounds like treatment is going to go well and you are determined to keep a positive attitude. :) hugs!

-Grace- said...

Love you, Steph.

Beth Ann said...

I'm so sorry. Truly. I'm glad it's early and treatable, but I know it also sucks. :(

tagyourit said...

I'm sorry you guys are going through this right now and I will send prayers and hugs your way.

Rachel said...

I think it is wonderful that you are close...and that you are there for her...Thinking good thoughts.